Ladies Conference January 2023 by Jan Jalowiec

The following are links to the audio files of a conference from January 2023. There are three audio files, and below them are the links to the videos that were played during the conference, as well as the informational sheet that was gone over in session 3.  

Im sorry that this first audio file doesn't start until 1:26 but don't know why! Just fast forward to that point I guess! 

Session 1 "Lift Up your Eyes" 

Video for Session 1

 

Im also sorry that the audio recording had a malfunction and this session missed the first half of the recording. Oh Technology how we love you. 

Session 2 "Look on the Field" 

Video for session 2

 

Session 3 Resources and Q&A

Video for session 3

"Manifesto Doc" 

Informational Sheet for Reference

* Proverbs 31 Therapy and Theology Series on YouTube

* “Control Girl” book by Shannon Popkin 

* “The Empowered Wife” book by Laura Doyle Book and Podcast (Episode 161) 

* Leslie Vernic: YouTube and Books. Marriage help, and clarity on Biblical Relationships. 

GOD TRIBE - my personal manifesto! 

G- Generous: Believe people are doing the best they can! 

    *GRATEFUL

O- On The Hook: I don’t make myself the exception

    *On My Own Paper

D- Discreet/Dignified: careful in actions and speech to avoid causing offense or to gain an advantage  

    *DUCT TAPE

T- Tenderhearted: Being Kind and Gentle. Looking for the best in others. Not suspicious! 

    *Take Care of Me/self care 

R- Reliable: Stable, Steady and sincere! 

    *Receive Well

 I- Integrity: Living whole, undivided, honest and with strong moral principles. 

    *”I Hear You” Listening Well=Respect. Doesn’t mean I Agree!  

B- Bordered: Healthy Relational Boundaries 

    *Be Squeaky Clean with Accountability. What was My Part in the Problem? only if 1% me? Be Vulnerable

E- Expectant: Full of Belief knowing God is Working and Moving in your life!  

    *Express needs Not Complaints! 

LEARN WHEN TRIGGERED! 

Ask Myself ::

1. What am I afraid of?
2. Is my fear realistic?
3. Can I actually control the situation?
4. Is it worth losing the intimacy trying to control? 

CORE: 

It needs to be strengthened! 

Committed to truth 

Open to the Holy Spirit 

Responsible and respectful

Empathetic and compassionate 

JADE: things NOT to do 

Justify

Argue

Defend 

Explain 

Six Relationship Skills

°Self Care :: Show Up Whole 

°Restore Respect :: It’s like Oxygen 

°Relinquish control :: Of Others 

°Receive Graciously :: Be Please-able! 

°Be Vulnerable :: Road of Intimacy

°Express Gratitude :: The Power of Words 

Eliminate :: Replace!! Look for the positive you can reinforce or BE instead of the negative Complaining :: Cheerful 

Criticizing :: Compliment 

Comparing :: Content

Correcting :: Charitable 

Condemning :: Compassionate 

This is the outline content that was supplied at the conference. 

Heartland Outline for Ladies conference

Key Passage: John 4:1-38
Key Verse: 35 Say not ye, There are yet four months, and [then] cometh harvest? behold, I say unto you,
Lift up your eyes, and look on the fields; for they are white already to harvest.

Session 1: Lift up your eyes,

The Great Commandment: Introspection
Mat 22:37-38 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment.

We must first realize we need our sight corrected, uncolored and clear Corrected: SALVATION
Uncolored: Thoughts
Clear: seeing In Light

Session 2 and look on the fields;

The Great Commission: Circumspection
Mat 22:39And the second [is] like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

1 Cor 13:13
Faith Hope (introspection- Inward) greatest is charity (Outward)

Charity bears believes hopes endures... all things

Examples from being in the field

Session 3: 
Some tools to emotionally mature and OBEY the Lord

Acting on What You Know of God

As I continue through my reading of the Scriptures, I am constantly amazed with how they truly are alive and life transforming. Lest any of you worry that my lack of posting is a result of my seeming crisis of faith from my last post, let me assure you, I am rock solid in my stand, state and security with my Saviour! He is always good and faithful, and never intends evil nor harm to all those he calls his! What a treasure we posses!

Just "some thinking" though... (I am very careful not to use other peoples words, phrases or titles these days!!! More on that tomorrow!)

I started in Daniel ... after skipping Ezekiel of course, (I was so not ready for that one again, even though it has been many months since our last visit together...!!) and I love in chapter 2 where Daniel has been told about the king needing someone to tell him the interpretation of his dream...after they told him what that dream was in the first place!!

My favorite part is in verse 16. Daniel has just heard of the decree that all the wise men would be destroyed, and "Daniel went in, and desired of the king that he would give him time, and that he would show the king the interpretation. "

[Now, make note this is before chapter 3 where the "certain Chaldeans" (aka. shamed and jealous wise men) made known to the king that "certain Jews" (aka. Rack, Shack and Benny) would not fall down and worship the the image during the Adhan musical call to prayer and they were sent to the furnace, and before the whole Daniel in the lion's den in chapter 6!]

OK, back to the story...

I don't see where Daniel made any specific prayer about "should I first see if The God if Israel will give me the revelation of the dream?" or "What might happen if I go out on a limb here and my God doesn't come through...?" Nothing like that. He is told why the wise men are going to be killed, and the next verse says "Then...". He KNEW his God! He was in prayer three times a day- purposed and dedicated prayer- not the "talking to the Lord while I do the dishes" kind of prayer! In verse 17, another "Then..." he went and told his three buddies! His knowledge of God made him confident in his actions.

Am I so familiar with God that I would act like Daniel?

Do I know His character and purposes well enough that before I prayed about it I know which way God would go?

WOW! Daniel did!

And even if he really didn't know that the dream would be revealed, he knew God could if HE chose to, and that was motive enough for his action. Now true, he was in a position that if he did nothing he and all the wise men were facing death, for the Chaldeans said rightly in verse 10, "There is not a man upon the earth that can shew the king's matter:", and that king was a little baby stern man, and wanted his way.

But they didn't know the whole of it... because "the except" is... a man can if the Lord be with him!

I have heard the quote, "Stand up for what is right, even if it means you are standing alone". And one is never alone... when the Lord is with him.

I made mention of this being before chapter 3 and 6 because it struck me that God knew how Daniel and his three amigos would act in those other two stories based in part on the way they acted in this one. (Aside from the fact that He is omniscient, that is!) These men had proven themselves to be men of action based on their knowledge of who God is.

There are so many of us (me!) that are faced with something that needs doing, or a problem that needs fixing. We know the right answer and don't do it for whatever lame reason.

Why do we hesitate?

Are we faced with something possibly unpleasant as a result of our actions?

Let me ask you, what could be more unpleasant than sinning against a Holy God?

It is Monday!

Yesterday in church, I was so inspired with many thing on which to post...! I hope you too enjoy the insight the Lord gave to me!

In teens we had a leader give the message instead of the teen pastor, and while the lesson was on lying, a verse in the passage spoke to me more directly than did the overall message.

Ephesians 4:21 If so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus:


The point was made in a contrast.

"Hearing about him vs. hearing him and Being taught about him vs. taught by him".

That struck me. I have attended a very good church for so long that is is easy to just glean from the preaching and teaching and feel like I am improving without actually hearing God, or being taught by him. Second hand knowledge. As the passage continues,

22 That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;
23 And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;
24 And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.


The result of actually being taught by and hearing from Jesus is a transformed life, which begins with the renewed spirit of the mind. In a previous post I mentioned the weakened state of the mind in the lives of so many Christians. Perhaps only spoon fed Christians. While they know what they need to do to have spiritual victory, it hasn't been practiced. They have been told from the pulpit (of my church)..."Do not believe what I say- search it out for yourself !" and perhaps have not.

This is not to absolve me of the same guilt! I am perhaps the best second hand learner! It is very easy to hear some preaching, to be in a spiritual conversation, to passively listen to a radio broadcast and feel that because I heard the information, know the verses, and could actually teach it to someone else it must mean I have been taught it from Jesus himself and it has been applied so as to transform my mind. While I never read those verses with the same frame of mind as yesterday, I am still accountable for what they say. Though my actions can suggest a transformed mind, only through true trials and testing will the fruit be revealed.

Which brings me to the second message of my Sunday... again by another pastor, and not our regular Pastor G.!

The message was about Abraham and Isaac and the request God made of him to sacrifice him.

After a particular point, my mind began thinking about why we as humans do not shy away from opportunities to test our abilities. In the areas of art contests and spelling bees, soccer games and technological breakthroughs, we say "Bring it" or "Just do it". I wondered why are we so quick to enter a sporting event where our ultimate goal is to show our strength over an opponent.

So why is it... I continued to wonder, that we as Christians shy away from the things that would prove our faith? We too have an opponent, do we not?

Is it because we fear pain?

Tell that to the foot ball player with cracked ribs.

Is it because there is too much emotional investment?

Let the little 6th grader that has ulcers from the stress of a spelling bee convince you otherwise.

Is it because we are afraid of what others might think?

The losers of every major competition still glory in the fact they at least they made it to the finals!

So many questions!

So what is it?! What would make me hope the Lord would not try me? Why wouldn't I want to enter that arena? Why would I not want the refiners fire in my life?

Does anyone really look forward to trials? No, not really.

Does anyone enjoy the thrill of knowing Jesus more? Absolutely!

And the pain of the journey to get there must be worth it. It says in Hebrews how Jesus endured the cross, all of it, for the joy that was set before him. Because we know he really knew what that joy was all about, we should trust that it really is worth anything we might have to endure. "Our light affliction" as Paul says!

So the truth is, I do want the trials. And Lord please help me to be faithful through it all. But first teach me, and let me hear from you!

Draw me nearer, through the fire

I trust my Saviour- to greater goals I aspire!

To know you more, I rest in your care

Try me - grow my faith, and all my weakness bear

For only when I am undone- does your strength show in me

Teach me Lord- Speak to me, I wait for thee on bended knee.

Ah Lord God!

The phrase "Ah Lord God" is exclusive to the prophets Jeremiah and Ezekiel in scripture. I can just picture these unique men in rich Jewish accents saying these words! When they were said, it was with passion in awe of God, or with a great burden for their nation of Israel.

Our teen class sings a song taken from the verses in Jeremiah that contain this phrase:

32:17-19 Ah Lord GOD! behold, thou hast made the heaven and the earth by thy great power and stretched out arm, and there is nothing too hard for thee: ... the Great, the Mighty God, the LORD of hosts, is his name, Great in counsel, and mighty in work: ...

In this verse, Jeremiah is praying to God, and he is acknowledging the limitless of the Lord. Later in verse 27 the Lord asks Jeremiah, "Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh: is there any thing too hard for me?", almost saying... "You said this a few minutes ago, but do you really believe it? What action will follow your knowledge that nothing is too hard for me?"

Enter my thoughts as I sing the song taken from the above verses. It makes me want to know more this amazing God! What is too difficult? NOTHING! And He really wants to use me to show it... to anyone... in any circumstance! I want my life to show the works of this great God so that none will question the source. It will be painfully obvious it is none of myself!

Now enter the current challenge before my church family. We have a beautiful facility that we owe A LOT of money on! There are humanly insurmountable obstacles before us that we will be slammed into if they are not removed. And it WILL hurt! What are we going to do about it?

Did you ever read the verses in Jeremiah that talk about God, and how nothing is too difficult for Him? Am I - are WE! - going to wait until He asks us "is there anything too hard for me?"

We have been called to prayer from our Pastor. We are led by the example of our deacons to around the clock prayer for this situation specifically. We have been challenged to allow God to give through us, sacrificially, to this cause. Anything up and above. ANYTHING!

Have you had an extra hour or two on your schedule at work? Did you get to the register and something rang up cheaper than you thought it would? Did you go out to lunch and your friend picked up the tab... that you expected to pay? Think about it and be purposed to faithfully look for the BLESSINGS OF GOD!!! He is just waiting! Get out of the way and let Him do it!!!!! Let us prove our God! Let Him be high and lifted up! Loudly Tell of His great works that are being done through you! Be creative in your understanding of just what God will use to show you He wants to bless! Acknowledge the commonplace and things we would normally chalk up to every day as the direct working of God in your life. It is only by His mercies that we are not consumed!!

My New Friend...

I was given the gift of a new friend this weekend. It will be a love/hate relationship- I already acknowledge this- but it WILL be a relationship nonetheless.

In my ever-desiring-but-never-quite-accomplishing quest to become a runner (term used loosely, for now!), fall has once again arrived. This is the time every year that I employ the "torrential rain and icy wind" excuse for not venturing outside to exercise. I live in Western New York, after all! (...yeah, all that means is there will be great weather until mid January,at which time snow will come unrelenting until sometime around Memorial Day!) Global warming! Blame it for everything! ... What was I talking about?... oh, right. My new friend.

I was given the gift of a treadmill.


I have actually used it.


Three times.


I really like it! Really! What a great excuse to listen to music way louder than I usually do for 25 minutes? (This means I do NOT hear the children calling me for things they really can handle themselves. PLEASE!!! I AM ONLY ASKING FOR A LITTLE TIME HERE! ) sorry for shouting.

There is a verse in 1 Timothy 4:8 "For bodily exercise profiteth little: but godliness is profitable unto all things, having promise of the life that now is, and of that which is to come. "

Focusing on the "profiteth little" part, means it does profit. Little is better than none!

If anyone has ever had a struggle with issues of weight, visit a new friend of mine,Calamity Jane. I have been inspired and motivated by her posts. While we hold very different beliefs on God and faith, I am still very impressed by her life and what she has shared on her blog. She is very transparent, and real. I like that. (For a little more on the differences in our faith visit Here) .

Please don't be afraid to ask how my new friendship is growing. Maybe it will be obvious if it is going well... I hope!